HOW TO CREATE A GOOD ATTITUDE (Specific Topic)

HOW TO CREATE A GOOD ATTITUDE      By Craig Lock   (Specific Topic)

"You are today what you thought about yesterday.
 You will be tomorrow what you think about today.
  Every attitude is positive or negative.
  It doesn't matter what happens to you, it is how you take it that matters."

"In the game of life you can be up one moment and down the next. The reason is not luck but the   attitudes you choose consciously or unconsciously."

1. YOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR DESTINY

 Your attitude determines your entire outlook on life - happy or sad, positive or negative. You may perceive a certain situation to be a disaster, while another person may see it differently, as a  positive opportunity for trying something new.

  One's attitude is closely related to your self-image and it is probably the most critical factor in   determining how successful or how happy you will be in life.

2. THE FACTORY OF THE MIND

Your thoughts become your beliefs. They determine whether "good" (positive), or "bad" (negative) messages are sent from the brain to the rest of your body. There is a complex relationship between the mind and the body. Physical disorders are caused by your state
of mind. What you think can literally make you sick or healthy. The attitude you hold about yourself can give rise to feelings of joy, despair, anger, rage, etc. and can even cause heart disease, asthma, and ulcers known as psychosomatic illnesses).

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." American psychologist, William James.

Positive thoughts produce positive results, and negative thoughts produce negative results. We should try to understand how our thoughts arise and are influenced; they come into the brain from what we hear, what we see, what we read and what we say to ourselves.

We get our thoughts/attitudes from the media, those with whom we mix and through self-talk. Negative people are the product of a negative environment. Self-talk is what we say to ourselves all day long. A number of sportsmen use this technique to stay positive. Sports psychologists also use it. Some people, on learning that they have cancer, have been known to go into shock and die. There have also been cases of people whom, expected to die far sooner by their doctors, have willed themselves to stay alive for an event like the birth of a grandchild.!

Optimism and pessimism are learned attitudinal behaviours and they can be relearned. We need to constantly monitor our inner navigational system, our attitudes to make our own course corrections.

WHAT IS your outlook on life - happy or sad? Remember what you believe in normally happens. In other words, "YOU GET WHAT YOU EXPECT". This is known as self-fulfilling prophecies.

Be ENTHUSIASTIC - walk, talk and act enthusiastically and you will find that it is contagious and that people will be attracted to you.

AS WE THINK, SO SHALL WE BECOME

The quality of our thinking is more important than what we think about.
How we think is our strangest secret.

If your goal is wealth, but your thinking is poverty-stricken, your attitude will cancel out the achievement of your goal. If your goal is health and you choose healthy thoughts, you
will realise your goal.

"We need to be beneficiaries of our attitudes, not victims."
"Our attitude determines our altitude".

WHERE DO OUR ATTITUDES COME FROM?

I believe that heredity (the genes that you inherit) have some part in forming attitudes. However, most important in shaping them, is the family environment, especially in your early childhood: the impressionable years up to the age of seven. Also critical are your lifetime experiences and events (whether happy or traumatic) in later years.

1. A sense of BELONGING which is picked up before birth. The "vibes" in the womb of the mother will determine whether we are really wanted by the mother, and this can determine our degree of
security (or insecurity) in later life.

2. Your sense of WORTH will be determined by your immediate family in your early childhood. They instill in you an inner sense of well-being and of being loved. The role of mothers and fathers is critical in the socialization process for the development of your attitudes. Their expectations of you play a big part in your life script.

3. Your sense of COMPETENCE will also originate in the family environment. That is why it is very important to praise and encourage children. If they are continually reprimanded, children will feel that they can't ever do things right. This then develops into the child thinking, "I am a
person of no worth who is no good at anything." This attitude grows over time and can be re-inforced in the working environment. Even extremely competent business executives can feel insecure on a personal level and have difficulty
in personal relationships.

SUCCESS ATTITUDES

Stanford University after doing extensive research, said that all success is 87.5% as a result of your attitudes. Your skills, abilities and knowledge make up the other 12.5%.

HOW DO I GET THE RIGHT ATTITUDE?

1. Enlist the co-operation of a positive close friend that you can confide in. Share your personal goals and dreams. Ignore the "knockers" who will try to put you down out of jealousy (the "tall poppy syndrome").

2. Seek out the right people (successful and enthusiastic ones who have the right attitude).

3. Select a model to emulate or follow...who you would like to be like? (Only if you are not happy with the way you are.)

4. Learn from your mistakes.

Look beyond your mistakes and savour successful experiences. Don't feel embarrassed or uncomfortable about your achievements. Make daily affirmations to yourself that you are doing
well and are on the right track. Reward yourself for minor achievements, or steps on the road to your bigger goals. Give yourself credit, no matter how small your achievements, because mental rewards will boost your motivation. All rewards must come from within. This conditioning will cultivate a positive attitude in you. Look forward to positive outcomes and rehearse them in
your mind, rather than anticipating failure.

5. Make the most of any situation you find yourself in. Try not to be anxious. Things will work out in the end.

6. Avoid self-pity. Resilient people don't feel sorry for themselves too long. The person who wallows in self-pity or bitterness spends too much time on introspection and not enough
time plotting a comeback.

7. Be persistent. Winning often means getting up one more time than you have been knocked down. Persevere and never give up.

8. Adapt to change and see it as a challenge rather than as uncertain and frightening.

9. Always keep things in perspective. Because our job is such a big part of our self image, a career set-back can make us lose perspective. If you become unemployed, don't see yourself as a failure, but rather as having options and an opportunity to pursue a new direction.

YOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR DESTINY
and
YOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR ALTITUDE

Realistically analyse your strengths and weaknesses. As a matter of interest, people generally list more weaknesses than strengths, especially women. Too often people discount their accomplishments and focus on what they haven't been able to do.

Making money in itself is not success, but rather a by-product of success. Most successful people use the technique of visualization to foresee ideal outcomes. If you can foresee getting
your desires in the mind, then you can get there in the body. .


Success or failure is not a matter of luck. The key ingredient is a winning attitude, together with PERSEVERANCE and common sense.

Your attitude determines your destiny:

Remember to stick at a task when things don't go right.
"When the going gets tough, the tough get going",

All successful people have true grit and stickability, as well as natural ability. The winner is often the person who gets up one more time than they are knocked down.

All the world's greats would never have been great if they had listened to the opinion of even their closest friends. Caruso, the world's greatest tenor, was told his voice sounded like a tin can. Thomas Edison, the inventor of motion pictures, was advised that no-one would pay to listen to sound coming from a screen. Edison told Henry Ford to give up making cars and work for him instead and make millions. Marie Curie was told to forget about radium. Laurence Olivier was told by friends to give up acting. Benjamin Franklin was told to stop fiddling with lightning. People told Johnny
Weismuller (Tarzan) that no-one would ever beat his fifty swimming records. His 1936 world record was the qualifying time for the 1972 Olympics! Attitudes of the time said his
records could never be beaten. Now 12 year old girls regularly beat his times.


DARE TO BE DIFFERENT!!!


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